The Wound Of Love

Ἐὰν εὕρητε τὸν ἀδελφιδόν μου, ἀπαγγείλατε αὐτῷ, ὅτι τετρωμένη ἀγάπης εἰμὶ ἐγώ. Kαλὰ δὲ εἶναι τῆς ἀγάπης τὰ τραύματα καὶ παρὰ τῆς Παροιμίας ἐμάθομεν ἥ φησιν Αἱρετὰ μὲν τοῦ φίλου τὰ τραύματα, κακὰ δὲ τῆς ἔχθρας καὶ τὰ φιλήματα. Tίς δὲ ὁ φίλος οὗ τὰ τραύματα τῶν φιλημάτων τοῦ ἐχθροῦ προτιμότερα, παντὶ δῆλόν ἐστι τῷ μὴ ἀγνοοῦντι τὰ τῆς σωτηρίας μυστήρια. Φίλος μὲν γάρ ἐστιν ἀληθινός τε καὶ βέβαιος ὁ καὶ ἐχθροὺς γενομένους ἡμᾶς τοῦ ἀγαπᾶν μὴ παυσάμενος, ἐχθρὸς δὲ ἄπιστός τε καὶ ἀνήμερος ὁ μηδὲν ἠδικηκότας ὑπαγαγὼν τῷ θανάτῳ. Tραῦμα τοῖς πρωτοπλάστοις ἐδόκει ἡ διὰ τῆς ἐντολῆς γενομένη τοῦ κακοῦ ἀπαγόρευσις, τραῦμα γὰρ ἐνομίσθη τοῦ ἡδέος ἡ ἀλλοτρίωσις, φίλημα δὲ ἡ πρὸς τὸ ἡδὺ καὶ εὐφανὲς προτροπή. Ἀλλ’ ἔδειξεν ἡ πεῖρα ὅτι τὰ νομιζόμενα τοῦ φίλου τραύματα τῶν φιλημάτων ἦν τοῦ ἐχθροῦ λυσιτελέστερά τε καὶ αἱρετώτερα. Ἐπεὶ οὖν συνέστησεν ἑαυτοῦ τὴν ἀγάπην ὁ καλὸς ἐραστὴς τῶν ἡμετέρων ψυχῶν, δι’ ἣν καὶ Ἁμαρτωλῶν ὄντων ἡμῶν Χριστὸς ὑπὲρ ἡμῶν ἀπέθανε, διὰ τοῦτο ἀντερασθεῖσα ἡ νύμφη τοῦ ἀγαπήσαντος δείκνυσιν ἐν ἑαυτῇ ἐγκείμενον διὰ βάθους τῆς ἀγάπης τὸ βέλος, τουτέστι τὴν τῆς θεότητος αὐτοῦ κοινωνίαν· ἡ γὰρ ἀγάπη ἐστὶν ὁ θεός, καθὼς εἴρηται, ἡ διὰ τῆς κατὰ τὴν πίστιν ἀκίδος τῇ καρδίᾳ ἐγγενομένη. Eἰ δὲ χρὴ καὶ ὄνομα τοῦ βέλους εἰπεῖν τούτου, ἐροῦμεν ὃ παρὰ τοῦ Παύλου ἐμάθομεν ὅτι τὸ βέλος τοῦτό ἐστι Πίστις δι’ ἀγάπης ἐνεργουμένη. Ἅγιος Γρηγόριος Νύσσης, Ἐξηγησις Του Αἰσματος Των Ἀσμάτων, Ὁμιλία IΓ’ Source: Migne PG 44.1044b-d

If you should find my kinsman, say to him that I am wounded by love. 1 That the wounds of love are beautiful we have learnt from Proverbs, which says, 'The wounds of a friend are desirable, but the kisses of an enemy are evil.' 2 And the answer to the question of who the friend is whose wounds are more beneficial than the kisses of a foe is obvious to everyone who is not ignorant of the mysteries of salvation. The friend is the true and unshakable One who even when we were foes never stopped loving us, and the enemy is the faithless and savage one who brings death to those who have done him no harm. To the one who was first formed, the commandment’s prohibition of evil seemed a wound, since the separation from what gives pleasure was thought to be a wound, while a kiss is an incitement to what gives pleasure and appears good. But experience has shown that things thought as wounds from a friend are more profitable and more desirable than the kisses of an enemy. Since, then, the beautiful lover of our souls has commended His love, because of which 'Christ died for us when we were sinners,' 3 the bride, having returned her beloved's love, reveals the shaft of love deeply fixed within her, that is, her fellowship with the Deity. For God is love, 4 as it has been said, and He has come to dwell in the heart by the means of the shaft of faith. And if it is needful to give a name to this shaft, we repeat what we have learned from Paul, that this shaft is 'faith working through love.' 5 Saint Gregory of Nyssa, Commentary on The Song of Songs, from Homily 13 1 Song 5.8 2 Prov 27.6 3 Rom 5.8 4 1 Jn 4.8 5 Galat 5.6