Marriage And Chastity

'Dicunt ei discipuli ejus: Si ita est causa homini cum uxore, non expedit nubere. Grave pondus uxorum est, si excepta causa fornicationis, eas dimittere non licet. Quid enim si temulentia fuerit, si iracunda, si malis moribus, si luxuriosa, si gulosa, si vaga, si jurgarix, si maledica, tenenda erit istiusmodi? Volumus nolumus sustinenda est. Cum enim essemus liberi, voluntarie nos subjecimus servituti. Videntes ergo apostoli grave uxorum jugum, proferunt motum animi sui, et dicunt: 'si ita causa homini cum uxore non expedit nubere.' Qui dixit illis: Non omnes capiunt verbum istud, sed quibus datum est.' Nemo putet sub hoc verbo, vel fatum, vel fortunam introduci: quod hi sunt virgines, quibus a Deo datum sit, aut quos quidam ad hoc casus adduxerit, sed his datum est qui petierunt, qui voluerunt, qui ut acciperent, laboraverunt. Omni enim petenti dabitur, et quaerens inveniet, et pulsanti aperietur.'  Sanctus Hieronymus, Commentaria in Matthaeum, Liber III, Caput XIX Source: Migne PL 26 135

'His disciples said to him, 'If the case of a man and a woman is so, it does not profit to marry.' 1 The weight of a wife is heavy if, except on account of fornication, it is not permitted to dismiss her. What indeed if she were a drunkard, or irascible, or of evil character, or addicted to luxury, or a glutton, or a slut, or a nagger, or foul mouthed, must one then retain her? Willing or unwilling she must be endured. We were free and we voluntarily subjected ourselves to servitude. Thus the Apostles, seeing that wives are a heavy yoke, give voice to the trouble of the soul and say, ' If the case of a man and a woman is so, it does not profit to marry.' 'He said to them, ' Not everyone receives this but to those whom it is given.' 2 Let no one think that by these words He is introducing fate or fortune, that they are chaste to whom it is given by God, or that they are led into the state by a some sort of accident, but rather it is given to those who seek it, who wish it, who work for it. To everyone who asks it will be given, and the one who seeks will find, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. Saint Jerome, from the Commentary On The Gospel Of Saint Matthew, Book 3, Chapter 19 1 Mt 19.10  2 Mt 19.11